In our home, chores are designed to help them learn life skills,
not just free labor. However, in cleaning up behind themselves, a kitchen timer
is effective. When I was little my mom would ask how much do I think I can do
in a certain amount of time. With my little ones, I ask which one can do more
in a certain amount of time (all in good fun), and make it competitive. Who can
pick up the most toys in two minutes? Who can make their bed the fastest,
properly?
I'm sure this goes against the grain of society, but the reality
is, when they get older not everyone gets a trophy. As adults they will be
competing for jobs, pay raises, and if they are their own boss with others in
their field. As parents we feel it stifles a child to teach them strangers care
more about their feelings/self-esteem than performance. True self-esteem is
built on how they can handle failure, do they whine and force their way or see
it as a way to do better next time? I console my little ones when they meet a
"let down" to their perceptions, like recently when my youngest
didn't win the popsicle draw. His older brother, picked up trash at lunch,
earned a slip for a free one, and he saw it as a way to help his school and
make his baby brother happy. We'd already had the chat about how he doesn't
always win, how others deserve a chance, and that he has a chance next time.
But it melted my heart to see his brother do an act of kindness, in the
specific area his brother was having difficulty without previous knowledge, and
out of his own heart.
When I put together the chore board for the boys, I used colored
scientific tape, letter stickers from Michael's, and magnets and puffy stickers
from Michaels (I made them better stick with gorilla glue)... and pictures cut
out and gorilla glued to magnets at top. I chose the dry erase choice, so we
can swap out chores as they master them, and they earn coins they stick in
their piggy banks (later to their bank accounts. The boys also stick cash gifts
away, recycle for extra money to stash away, and we teach them how to repurpose
and freecycle. Things they have me sell on CraigsList actually ends up towards
charity, they love to sell their old stuff to help the SPCA. And as a parent,
things were given to them, so we don't feel it is right to take anything back
in any fashion... it is all their choice! Even if in the future they choose to
keep their cash, but in the mean time I am proud they are making positive
choices and thinking of others and not just themselves.
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CHORE CHARTS
DLTK
http://www.dltk-cards.com/chart
Free Printable Behavior charts
http://www.freeprintablebehaviorcharts.com
Chore Charts.com
http://www.chorecharts.com/free-charts-charts
Goal For It
http://www.goalforit.com/chore-chart.html
Handipoints
http://www.handipoints.com/printable-chart/chore-chart.html
Tip Nut
http://tipnut.com/chore-charts